"I'm gonna get my man back". Say it out loud. If you want him, you can get him. It's been done before and it will be done again and again by women who have the right attitude and perspective. Let's look at the outlook you need if you want to get your ex back in your life (where he undoubtedly belongs).

Attitude is everything. Well, almost everything. It certainly is the first and most important step to re-igniting the flames of passion after a break up. You need to make a conscious decision to actually get him back, instead of merely hoping that it will happen. Daydreaming about being with him again is not going to get the job done. You need to decide that it will happen. You need a real "I can do it" attitude.

Admittedly, that can be hard to do when you're coming off a break up. Your a little emotionally raw and it's tough to go through the day without him when you want to be together again. At some point, though, you are going to need to decide whether you just want to be within him or if you actually will get him back. If you want him, he's yours. You just need that committed perspective.

Got it? Then you're more than halfway home.

Now it's time for the next step. The plan. If you don't have a good plan to get him back, you probably won't. You can't just try whatever comes to mind and you sure don't want to rely on gut instinct. You need a plan that's based on how guys look at the world, a strategy that will show you exactly what to do to get him back at your side. The good news is that a proven technique from an expert in the field is very likely to get the two of you back together.

"I'm gonna get my man back!" Say it again. And then, use that attitude to your full advantage.