If You Want to Save Your Relationship, Tell Them How You Really Feel

Being totally honest with your loved one is difficult sometimes. But, if you want to save your relationship, tell them how you really feel. Do it and do it often. There is nothing worse than being in a long term relationship and finding out that your partner absolutely hates something about you and they have been dodging the issue and keeping it buried for a very long time. Ouch.

I speak from experience. I used to be that person. In the interest of "keeping peace", I would often not voice my opinion. And, do you know what happened? Yep, first time an argument reared it's ugly head, I would spew, with venom, what my opinion really was. By the time I voiced my opinion, I felt that the issue had evolved to the point of critical mass and being one of those Type A personalities, I employed the scorched Earth policy. You know - burn it to the ground and take no prisoners. Sound familiar? Just how stupid is that?

I have learned a few things over the years and here is a little free advice.

• Do not let things build up. Discuss issues that you have openly and immediately. If you let issues fester and grow,sooner or later, they will come up in an argument. What's the worse that could happen? You either part ways or you have a healthier relationship.
• Choose your words carefully. If you are angry or hurt about the issue, chances are that the words in your mind are not very helpful or kind. But, remember, once words are spoken, they cannot be taken back. Your partner may say they forgive you for the hateful things you said, but do they really? Would you?
• Try to understand what caused the difference of opinion in the first place. Are your expectations unreasonable? Is your view of the situation "out of whack" with the rest of the world. Hey, it could just be you. Try to view the situation from another perspective to see if you can resolve the issue calmly.
• Life is short - make an effort to find happiness every minute of every day. That's hard to do when you're angry, so deal with it. Get that issue resolved.

I know it can be difficult, but if you want to save your relationship, tell them how you really feel.

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