Many things are going through your mind right after a breakup. You wonder what you did to make him suddenly fall out of love with you. You wonder what you should have done to make him love you more and want to be with you forever. The biggest thing occupying your mind is how do I get my ex boyfriend back? First of all he probably has not fallen out of love with you. But that is hard for you to believe after all the harsh things he said. Remember this, in a time of upheaval people say a lot of things they do not mean. You probably said words to him that you wish had not been said. Don't be dwelling on that. You have much more important things to think about.

If you want your ex boyfriend back you must take control of the situation. Start by thinking with your brain instead of your heart and put into action these 4 very effective tips and pay attention to the 1 important warning. Here are the tips:

1. Observe the no contact rule. This means no phone calls, emails or text messages to your ex for a few weeks. If you can, go out of town to visit some friends or relatives it would be even better. In any case you need to be out of his sight for awhile.

2. During this time of being away from your ex do some deep thinking and soul searching. Do you really want your ex boyfriend back because you love him or is it just a bruised ego and embarrassment at being dumped that makes it so urgent to get him back. You will also want to make sure that your boyfriend's intentions are genuine and that he is not just wanting you to be a friends with benefits.

3. After the no contact period, get out with your friends. Look your best because you are going to attempt to run into your ex. When you do run into him do not try to make him jealous, just be friendly and upbeat and act as if he was an old friend that you are happy to see again.

4. If you want your ex boyfriend back, you will have to show him that you still love him. Do not seem desperate or needy, just be the woman he fell in love with and let nature take it's course.

The Warning:

Being too anxious to get your ex back could make it harder and a longer time. You want to make him come to you. He fell in love with you once and he will again, but you cannot make it too easy for him. Make him realize that you are a person that is perfectly able to get along without him and you demand his respect and love at all times. Getting your ex back under any other circumstances will only lead to trouble in the future.