You may be feeling as though the break up with your girlfriend is a huge mistake. You're naturally going to feel this if you're still in love with her. You probably imagine that she's moved on, that she may already be involved with someone new and has put the chapter of her life that included you behind her. Jumping to that type of conclusion may be completely wrong. Regardless of where her head or heart are at right now, you can still get your ex girlfriend back. If you've been telling others "I want to get my girlfriend back," it's time to stop talking about it and start acting on it.

One important part of any plan to get your girlfriend back is to show her that you're mature enough to handle the change in the relationship. If you let your emotions show, you're probably going to end up crying whenever you see her or talk with her. Begging and pleading with her also won't feel beneath you. If you do this, you may as well resign yourself to a future without her. She's not going to want you back. There isn't a woman around who finds desperation an endearing quality in a man.

Anyone who has successfully gotten their ex girlfriend back will tell you that one key to success is to become her friend. For a guy who is anxious to rekindle the romance with his ex, this isn't welcomed news. It's critical though and can't be ignored. You need to establish yourself as someone in her life that she can depend on and trust. You have to do that in a way that won't make her feel threatened or pressured into something more. You can accomplish this by telling her that all you're interested in is friendship and then act like it. Don't stare at her when you two are together and don't constantly call her. Treat her as you would any other friend. Invite her out for coffee or lunch sometimes and let her pay her own way. Make reference to the fact that you're happy and doing well. If she asks if you're dating, avoid the question. You need to let her see that you're good without her and that you're content being just a friend to her. This will help her see what you bring to her life and it will also remind her of what she's missing since you're not her romantic partner anymore. Once she realizes this, she'll start to want more again and you'll be right there waiting for her.