Yes, yes we all know... because we've heard you shout from the rooftops "I want my ex girlfriend back." This could be a moment for me to be a jerk and say something along the lines of, "ha-ha..." But I'm not going to do that.

As much as I appreciate your enthusiasm it's not the best time. The more you act out and show your desperation the less your ex girlfriend is going to want to have anything to do with you. Don't ask me why this is, I don't understand why it is that people act this way...

The best thing to do if you really want her back is to give her some space. The further you chase her away the harder it's going to be to get her back, so keep that in mind the next time you reach for the phone.

While you're giving her some space it's not a bad idea for you to take some time for yourself too. Stay busy by hanging out with friends, working, going to the river, it really doesn't matter what you do as long as it's positive and will help grow you as a person.

The worst thing you can do is sit in your room and feel sorry for yourself. You're never going to get past the phase of "I want my ex girlfriend back"... it will haunt you forever. Think about why your relationship ended. What did you/she do to escalate things? Can you both accept responsibility for your actions? Have some sort of a plan that will keep you from making the same mistakes in the future.

Eventually you're going to have to talk to your ex, do yourself a favor and have a plan. Set some rules for yourself such as no talking about the relationship, breakup, or getting back together. You want to talk like friends again, this is going to make her want you.

You want to start things slow and go from there. Being cautious and thinking before you do or say something is going to help make your relationship stronger in the future. It's not impossible to get her back, it just takes a little effort.