He said the words you had been dreading to hear - I think we should take a break for awhile. Although you knew it was coming it does not make it any easier to hear. Of course when you first saw the storm clouds gathering you should have taken steps to head off the problem. But that is all water over the dam now and you have to make the right moves now to have any chance of getting your boyfriend back. It is not too late to put some special techniques in motion to save your relationship.

When either of the people involved in a relationship feels unfulfilled they become dissatisfied. This is when the signs of discontent begin to appear in the form of fault finding, complaining or starting an argument over the most trivial thing. When this pattern continues for awhile, one of the parties involved gets enough and says let's call it quits. This may or may not be the exact scenario in the case of your breakup, but whatever the cause, the cure is the same.

When your boyfriend says he wants to put things on hold for awhile, the best technique is to be in complete agreement with him. Do not argue or plead with him by saying you will change. This statement just reveals that you knew you were not doing the right things to make him feel loved and wanted but you did not do anything about it. Saying you will change now will not carry much weight or sincerity. Why would you change now if you knew he was unhappy with your actions but kept right on doing the same things that made him unhappy?

The best thing you can do now is let him go. Give him some time away from you and if you really meant it when you said you would change, start doing it now. To get your ex boyfriend back you need to face up to what you did to make him unhappy and start making changes. Do not just say you will change if you get your ex back, start making the changes now.

Once you honestly believe you have changed and will stay that way, have your friends start spreading the news about what a change has come over you and how much better they like the new you. Tell them to make sure your ex hears about it. This will make him want to see for himself. He will want to talk to you and spend some time with you again to make sure. If you have been honest and really made these changes for the better, you will get your ex boyfriend back.

If you feel the breakup was not your fault, but you still want your ex back there are many other techniques that will work for this problem just as well. But giving him the space he needs to think and begin missing you is always a good way to start.