You've tried everything. Begging, pleading, even some (not so adult) tantrum throwing. And your spouse is still ready to walk out the door. You may feel like you are waiting for the last nail in the coffin, the divorce subpoena. You are starting to feel more desperate, as your situation grows ever dire.

All is not lost. There is time to salvage even the seemingly worst relationship fracture. You may feel the need to act immediately and rashly. This is not the time for action without thought. You must find a way to gain control of your emotions and begin to think rationally about your situation. You and your spouse are in need of a stabilizing factor in your relationship and right now with time and patience,that can be you!

You must immediately stop what you are doing. Now of all times, it is imperative that you keep your silence and listen to what your spouse is telling you. Accusations have flown both ways. And you may feel the need to defend yourself against the hurt and the pain your spouse has afflicted. Now, is the time to remember, that you are about to lose something that you feel is vital, essential to your life, your spouse. There is no doubt that you and your spouse are in emotional turmoil. It is time to take some drastic, unexpected measures to save your marriage.

Drastic measures are necessary at this point. Instead of responding to his or her anger, keep your silence. Learn to listen between the lines what is your spouse really trying to tell you? Have you been ignoring him or her? Take this time to listen to your spouse's grievances. Think about what your spouse is telling you. And then, find the appropriate way to respond. Do you need to apologize? Have you been harboring some resentment that may be better aired to a friend rather than your spouse?

Now, is the time to counter your spouse's anger and frustration with silence. Listen, really listen to what your spouse is telling you. You may be surprised at what you learn. You may find that your spouse is desperately seeking your attention. By your taking the time to listen you are helping to restore your relationship. Your spouse may begin to respond in kind and begin to listen to you. This is how you will know you both are on the road to healing and moving toward a positive change in your relationship!