You had an affair and your partner found out. Hmmm, that can really bring trouble, mistrust and fury. But you can save your relationship again after the affair. Though it will take a lot of effort on your part. While you are at it don't expect your partner to respond yet to you yet. That will take time. You just need to focus on the effort at saving your relationship after the affair.

You have to be willing and ready to apologize. It goes a long way in melting the hardness of the heart. Don't allow pride to overshadow your reasoning. It is better to be open about this thing. Your apology will show your partner that you are ready and willing to turn a new leaf.

Don't expect your partner to respond to you now; he/she is still hurting (your partner has the right to be hurt). Just be patient, remember that "the patient dog eats the fattest bone"

The reason for most affairs is due to the ideas of fantasy that one normally have. Get your self to understand that we are in an imperfect world and that you can't have everything the way you want it, which means you can't have a perfect partner any where, everyone have their own shortcomings. Even you are not perfect!

This will help you to accept your partner as he/she is and learn to love him/her like that. You can't live peacefully with anyone without accepting them as they are. Remember that your partner too won't be living with you if he/she doesn't accept you just as you are.

Give your partner more attention, fuss over him/her. Show your partner how special he/she is. Communicate with your partner all the time. Make him/her see that you are ready to make up for all you have caused. Love and trust will take some time to rebuild. But wait for it for it will surely come.