Are you and your spouse arguing more these days and you want to know how to resolve conflict in a marriage? Disagreements in a marriage are not a real big deal when both spouses have the tools and understanding of how to resolve conflicts. Couples are not going to agree all the time. In fact having differences are what make us human and can be a healthy aspect of a marriage.

Could you image being married to a person just like you? It may be fun for the first month or two. But it would get awfully boring after a while.

A little conflict helps keep couples talking. It is what happens during the conversation that will determine if the difference turns in to a full on argument.

Here are a few pointers that can help you and your spouse develop some conflict resolution skills.

• Keep the conversation with your spouse a calm level. Arguments are born from improper voice levels. You start to raise your voice and then your spouse raising their voice to counter, and so on. This pattern continues until you are both screaming at each other. Keeping your voice calm will allow the discussion to stay at a low and manageable level.

• Allow your spouse to say what they have to say. Interrupting them in mid-sentence can be observed as disrespectful and tells them that you r are not interested in what they really have to say.

• Be an active listener. This tie's into the point above. But the listening aspect needed to be reiterated. It is very important.

• Demand respect from your spouse when it is your turn to talk. If they interrupt you while you are talking, calmly remind them that all you ask that they do is to be an active listener until you are done with what you have to say.