Knowing how to make a marriage work can be difficult enough without having the added pressure of your partner having all but given up. So if you are in this situation and you want to fight to save your marriage then you will be comforted to know that there are still actions that you can put into place today that will start to turn your marriage around.

If you are faced with this situation and there is absolutely no communication between you, then you will have to start thinking about yourself! By saying this, I don' t mean in a selfish way but in a reflective way, because in order for you to make any in roads into your marriage problems you are going to have to make changes. Think back to when you first got together, and remember what it was that first attracted your partner to you. It may well have been your positive outlook or attitude to life. It may well have been something as simple as a sparkle in your eye or that fire in your belly. Whatever it was, try to resurrect it and bring it back. It is still there in you, you just need to bring it out!

Change the way that you act around your partner. For example, don' t appear needy and beg your partner to take you back. All this does is to drive them further away from you. Instead try to take up activities away from your partner. Think about taking up that hobby you have always wanted to try but never had the time. How about joining a Salsa class or a gym? Doing these activities will not only get you out meeting other people away from the home environment, but will give you time to think about how you are going to handle the situation. When your partner realises that you are not as reliant upon them as they thought you were, they will start to look at you in a different light.

Another essential piece of information that you will need to know in order to make your marriage work is that you need to stay in control of your emotions, however hard this may seem. If you can think with your head and not with your heart then any decisions that you make from now on will be the right decisions, and not something that you will regret later on down the line. Also stay positive around your partner at all times and try to stay calm. Just imagine yourself like a swan; graceful and gliding on top of the water but underneath, peddling like crazy to keep everything together. It is this top half above the water that you need to portray to your partner. This is because every positive action on your part evokes a positive reaction or response from your partner.

By changing the way that you think and act, this will indeed have a positive effect on your partner. Once they can see that you are changing, it will send them a clear concise message that you are willing to fight for your marriage and do whatever it takes to make it work. Taking action like this might just spur your partner into also wanting to change and maybe even playing their part in saving your marriage.