Sometimes you don't realize what you had until it's gone, and many men can say that after a break-up.

It's tough when a woman you really like makes the decision that it's not working out, and moves on. It leaves a man with two choices...

1. Move on and find a new girl

2. Try and recover the girl he lost

Certainly, the better option is the first one, since people usually break up for a reason. Trying to convince someone who doesn't want to be with you that they should be is an uphill battle, and one where you most likely will lose.

But that doesn't stop us from trying, does it? Because typically, the first thing a guy does after he gets dumped (and after moping around a bit) is try to figure out how to get back the girl who dumped him.

Sometimes, break ups are a good thing. But sometimes, they happen because of reasons that could have been fixed or avoided all together.

If you go the route of trying to win her back, you need to find why it ended in the first place. The most common ways this happens are either a breakdown of communication, or trust between the two people.

A typical loss of communication situation is one where the girl is feeling neglected or ignored in the relationship. She doesn't feel like her partner really listened to her, and this caused a great deal of frustration for her.

A loss of trust issue comes about when she feels her partner did something that made her doubt he really loved her. He could be cheating on her (or it might seem that way), lying, or some other form of dishonesty.

When this happens, intimacy can be lost, and the girl will feel the need to move on.

So after you figure out what caused the break up, you'll need to understand WHY. So if you determine she was feeling neglected by you, you need to figure out why you were neglecting her (or at least why she felt you were!).

Then you need to let her know that you understand why she broke up with you. This is probably one of the hardest things for guys to do, because it seems like you're accepting the blame for messing things up - but its important that women understand you know why they broke up with you, because is shows that you are paying attention to their side of things.

Once you make it clear you understand her side of things, and what caused her to break up with you, you are clearing the way for you to re-build intimacy with her.

When this happens, you'll want to start reminding her why she got into a relationship with you in the first place. Be the charming guy you were when you first met her. Talk about your past dates, your good times together. Focus on all the happy moments the two of you shared.

Try and re-kindle what got her attracted to you in the first place, and nurture that. Don't be too aggressive, but remind her how great of a guy you are.

If all goes well, after a period of time you should make your move. If she feels like she's finally starting to remember why she was with you to begin with, then bring up getting back together. Let her know that it will be different this time, and that her happiness is a priority for you.

It may or may not work, but you can't do much more. Definitely don't push the issue. If you are clear with your intentions, allow her to consider the offer. She just might take you up on it.