So you and your girlfriend have split up and know you are asking "how do I get my ex girlfriend back?" Well depending on the reason of the breakup, it could be an easy or difficult task. There are some good books and e-books out there that can give you a complete step by step guide to getting your ex back. Why waste a trip to the book store.

• Find out what went wrong in your relationship. Just because she broke it off does not mean that it is truly over. It is normal for a couple to find themselves back together again after a brief period of time apart. All you need to do is work on yourself to make her see that you are a catch and that she should not have let you go.

• Become the man that she wants. Hopefully you remember all those conversations where she told you what she was looking for in a man. These conversations are key to a relationship and you should have been paying attention. If you are deeply in love with her, then you need to make the changes.

• Send her a basket of flowers just to let her know that you are thinking about her. Do not put anything else in the note. Only that you were thinking about her at that moment and just thought it would be a nice gesture to send her flowers.

• Get ready for the phone to ring. If she is a lady she is going to call you and thank you for the flowers. Take this opportunity and ask to meet you for a lunch at a small restaurant.

All you need to do is meet with her and be friendly. Go to the lunch without any expectations. You will need to start rebuilding your relationship with her, and the best place to start is being her friend.