Since starting My Website I've noticed that there is a serious abundance of guys out there who have 'this one girl', the one amazing girl who eclipses all others in every sector of life and they *must* have. Because this is such a huge problem I've decided to dedicate create a full series to help all guys stuck in a similar rut.

If this is you, and you would really like a certain someone special to be in your life then listen up closely, I've got some good news and some bad news for you:

The good news is that you can have any girl you want.

The bad news is that you must realize this and live this reality of being able to date and attract any girl, which means not chasing just one girl. Confused? Don't worry, all will be revealed.

Today I'm going to teach what is known as an abundance mindset, it's a way of going about life where you simply know there are millions of women out there and there are always more fish in the sea. It is that amazing plateau up in the sky where you realize, unlike the majority of guys, that you don't need just one girl, you also feel that sense of peace knowing that if the girl you desire doesn't like you back, your life isn't over, in fact when you have this mindset you'll probably bounce back happier than ever.

The Abundance Mindset

The Abundance mindset is in my opinion, the most crucial skill you can ever have in attracting women into your life, whether you simply want to attract one girl, or date hundreds. Having a mindset of complete abundance just has a huge effect on your life in every area, especially with women. No longer do you have to feel there is only one girl for you, or your life is over. No longer will you live in fear of rejection or screwing up.

An Abundance mentality is where you know there are over 2 million women just in your city alone! And over 3 billion worldwide, and with that you realize that you have limitless potential, you are never ever going to run out of women to talk to, or have relationships with, and more than likely there is always going to be a better girl out there for you. When you start to realize this you become less attached to that *one girl* and you start to realize the potential in women all around you.

It is at this point that women notice you becoming more of a lone warrior, a man who doesn't need women for validation, and they start becoming more attracted to you. You will probably also notice the girl you're interested in becoming far more interested in you than before when you were clingy, needy, and attempting to please her in every way.

Believe it or not I actually used to have a belief about women that many men seem to have, and it went something like this "I don't want to talk to or flirt with other women because the one girl I'm interested in will then become upset and not want to talk to me, and I will never have a chance with her".

I can tell you right now that this belief is completely and utterly false. Never in my life have I had that happen to me or anyone else I know. In fact nearly every single time I've seen a guy flirt and date more than one girl at once, each girl thinks "We'll this guy is fun and interesting, and I think he may be seeing other girls, I don't want that, I want him to be ALL MINE!", and they start working harder than ever in an attempt to show off how good they are, seeking his validation and attempting to appease him, rather than the other way around.

So how do you actually go about building this abundance mentality? We'll the easiest way by far is... to have an abundance of women in your life. Now the great thing about this is that it doesn't have to be girls you're dating, in fact, you don't even have to know them; you simply need to talk to a lot of women. Talk to them on the train/bus, waiting for the train/bus, at work, at school, out at pubs/club, at the shops.

You know who the best women to talk to are? The friends of the girl you like. Not only do you get to meet more women (who knows they may even be more amazing than the girl you like), but the girl you have feelings for will see that you're not completely social awkward and will even start becoming jealous of her friends getting along with you, then will want to know you better too.
The reason why you need to talk to them is that when you are actually talking to them they sort of become *real*. While before when you are simply observing women they seem like objects outside of your reality, like they are on TV or in the movies, and when they are outside of your reality they aren't contributing to your abundance mindset.

Once you start talking to women of all walks of life every single day you start to notice just how many of them there are around you, and you also begin to see that perhaps there are even more amazing girls than your *one special girl* out there for you. If there aren't (and please don't say "Oh there aren't any girls as amazing as this one" if you hardly ever talk to other women) then of course you can always have your one special girl, and she will love you more than ever for not treating her like you're her slave or her love puppy that hangs around constantly being clingy and annoying.

It really is hard to imagine having this mindset when you don't have it already, and you may feel some resistance to thinking this way, as you still have this feeling that your one special girl is better than every other girl out there. Let me tell you as someone who's been in the same position of having this one girl that I loved and adored who never loved me back for over 2 years; it's amazing how much different life is after adopting this abundance mentality. Since I lost touch with that one special girl I've since met and dated many many equally or even more special girls who all are amazing in different ways, and I'd have to say I feel far, far happier now than I ever was when I was chasing that one girl.

So get out there, talk to other girls and start to realize that you can have any girl you desire, it is completely counter-intuitive but it is by far the best and easiest way to gather interest from that girl that desires you.