You may be asking "how to get over my ex," but is this really what you want? Sadly, many relationships end when they shouldn't. If you have recently had a breakup in your relationship, you should be asking yourself if this is what you really want.

Given that you are wondering "how to get over my ex," it sounds to me like you are struggling at the moment. That is totally understandable as it would require someone to be totally heartless not to feel something after splitting with someone you love.

Rather than rush into this, you may be better off giving yourself some forced time out on your own to really think about your ex and your life in general. It does us all good to have some quality time on our own to gather our thoughts. Think about your ex and imagine life as a single person again. Is this what you want? Do you want to look for someone new? Do you miss your previous love? These are all important questions and only you can work out what is best for you.

If you decide that you no longer want to keep asking yourself "how to get over my ex," and would rather be back with your ex, then the time out has been worthwhile. You now need to work out what needs to happen to get your ex back. Think about the breakup and what caused it. This is important because you will have to come up with a plan to overcome any past issues. Once you have done this, it's time to lay out your plan to your ex love. This can be a difficult process, but if your relationship is to go any further, then the two of you need to have some serious decisions about your future together.

At some time in our lives, we all need to grow up and take responsibility. Given what you have been through, your time may have just arrived. Do you commit to your past lover or do you start again? Whatever you do, if you do commit to your old relationship and both of you agree this is what you want, give it your best shot. You don't want any more broken hearts right now.

The truth is, you have had a breakup and you have had plenty of time to weigh up your options. If your love is meant to be, follow your heart and hopefully you will never have to worry about "how to get over my ex" ever again.