Doesn't it seem like the "nice guys" always wind up getting ignored and rejected, while the "bad boys" get more girls than they can handle? Before I learned how to talk to girls the right way and generate attraction, I used to be a classic example of a Nice Guy. And when I think about how many hot girls I could have hooked up with but didn't, because my "Nice Guy" approach messed everything up, I want to kick myself!

In the past, when I liked a girl I always made myself available to her. I'd chat with her on the phone, or on the Internet, for as long as she wanted to. If she wanted to meet up and do something, I'd drop whatever I was doing and go see her. If she was having problems with whatever guy she was currently sleeping with, I'd listen to her and try to be supportive. The bottom line was, instead of working on making her feel sexual attraction towards me, I acted like her "friend" who didn't have any other agenda. I tried to act as if I wasn't like "those other guys."

In other words, I had no idea about how to talk to girls and frame myself as an attractive Alpha Male. As you've probably found out, when you try to be a girl's "friend," you wind up stuck in the Friend Zone. This can be an incredibly frustrating situation. And the girl you like isn't going to give you what you really want -- because you're not demonstrating any of the qualities that she is "hard wired" to go after.

This guy is showing weakness instead of confidence. Meanwhile, the guys with Alpha Male qualities are showing her that they're masculine, independent, and don't have time to play games. Also, it's clear that Alpha Males have other sexual options -- obviously they aren't having a problem with getting girls. And so, they don't obsess over one particular girl, the way that "Nice Guys" do.

Remember, women want a man who is wanted by other women! They are competitive with each other. If you convey the sense that you are desired by women, more women will want you. On the other hand, if girls get the sense that you're completely unattached and 100% available, they won't see you as the "prize" they want to win.