A serious row one night and your significant other walks out on you. The nasty feeling in your gut tells you that they may mean it this time. Next day, after a sleepless night, you rub your red-rimmed eyes and try to think it over.

You are probably experiencing a whole mixture of emotions, especially hurt, anger, sadness and regret. It may feel like the end of the world but truly it's not.

You have choices. If you choose to try to mend your fences then there are proven strategies on 'how to get back with an ex', readily available on line. Use them wisely and you CAN repair the relationship.

Does that make you feel better? It should do. There is nothing worse than the feeling that life has dealt you a harsh blow and you just have to sit back and take it. You DON'T!

Having decided you want to get back with your ex, you have some work to do in laying the foundations of a strategy to achieve your goal. The first month after a break-up is critical. This is the time you give your partner some space while you put your own house in order.

A crucial element in how to get back with an ex is to sort out your emotions and get your head straight. Difficult but essential. Emotions will lead you right up the wrong path and spoil everything.

The most troublesome emotion, and the one you must subdue, is the feeling of rejection. Your pride and ego have been hurt and, if you don't control them, they will make your life miserable. Banish them - train yourself so that every time a rejection thought crops up, you mentally put it away on a high shelf where it is out of sight. Same goes for anything approaching self-pity. Just don't give these negative feelings space in your head.

Self-pity and feelings of rejection are very destructive. They quickly lead to neediness and jealousy, which are deeply un-sexy, and likely to make any ex-partner run a mile.

Remember that your partner was almost certainly rejecting something about the way you BEHAVED, not rejecting you as a person. This is an important distinction. Behavior can be changed and here lies your hope for the future.

For the same reasons, you must not give in to the temptation to call, text, press the other person for a meeting, discuss the break-up endlessly with their friends, or send loving cards or letters.

This absolutely does not mean you should sulk. If your ex calls, be pleasant, keep the conversation light and avoid anything contentious. Be just a touch casual but not cold. This will pique and surprise your partner. They will probably be expecting you to show signs of heart-break. If you seem to be quite calm and ordinary and not collapsed in a miserable heap, they will feel intrigued and even a little bit irritated. This irritation can rekindle the old attraction that brought you together in the first place.

To keep calm and free of negative emotions be as nice to yourself as possible. Go out with friends and do all the things you really like doing. Eat well, exercise and take care of your health. Don't start dating - it could only cause unnecessary complications later.

These are some suggestions for laying the foundations of a 'how to get back with an ex' campaign. But to succeed you also need a coherent strategy to take things to the next stage. Here, you should take advantage of the excellent help around.

First-class tried and tested programs are available on line and following one of these will give you not only the techniques to use but the self-confidence that is crucial in rebuilding your relationship.