How to Flirt With Women - The Basics

Flirting is perhaps the most important skill when it comes to dating. If you're good at flirting, you can quickly and easily get in contact with women and they will enjoy being around you. Good flirting is not about impressing a girl or "getting into her pants". Good flirting is about initiating a playful kind of contact and getting a "feel" for your opposite. Depending on how it goes, this might soon lead to attraction and seduction.

Here are the most important, basic tips for effective and fun flirting:

1. Relax, be natural.
Don't try to come off as the big alpha male and don't try to "get her" with cool pick up lines. If you come on too strong, she will probably feel cornered and will try to get away from the conversation.

2. Ask and and listen.
People (not just women) love to talk about themselves. We are all the most important person in our lives. Don't spend all evening talking about yourself, instead, ask her open questions about herself and then listen to what she has to say. Take a genuine interest in what she tells you. Nothing is more flattering than genuine interest. Strangely enough, if you let her talk about herself and listen to what she has to say, that will make you the most interesting person in the room (in her eyes).

Of course, that is not to say that you should never talk about yourself as well. Just put a bit more emphasis on listening than on talking.

3. Be authentic and straight-forward.
If things don't go perfectly, don't try to cover it up or ignore it. That's what everybody else does. If it seems that she's losing interest, don't just ramble on. Instead, comment on the fact that she seems to be losing interest or disengage from the conversation before she can (this will instantly make you more interesting again).

If there is an awkward silence, don't start fiddling with your watch or your drink, instead make a joke about the awkward silence or again, disengage from the conversation.

4. Test her boundaries (gently).
This is where the fun part comes in. When flirting with a girl, say things that slightly tease and provoke her from time to time. Remember that a completely polite, courteous and politically correct conversation is a boring one. Stand out from the crowd by being slightly cocky or commenting on a situation by saying out loud what everybody else is only thinking.

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