If you really want to know how to fix a marriage, you had better be prepared for some time spent working with your spouse to better understand each other. Fixing a marriage is not for the weak at heart. It takes work to open up with yourself and your spouse about what needs fixing and what your needs are in the relationship.

While it might seem selfish to focus on your needs, it is vitally important to the success of your marriage. If your needs are not being met in the relationship you are not going to be a very active participant. But with focusing on your own needs you are going to have to be open to hearing what your spouses' needs are-and that might not be something you want to hear.

The problem with marriages is they grow stale. As we get older our needs and interests start to change. These changes have to be acknowledged. For example, you and your spouse really enjoy shopping together and buying items you think are fun to have around the house as decor. But you have been reading about cutting back on frivolous spending and you are beginning to think this is a really good idea, but you are nervous to share your new found frugality. Now when your wife wants to go shopping you find excuses to not go shopping. Your spouse doesn't understand and figures you would rather do other things then spend time with them.

Do you see why it makes sense to be open with your spouse and share what your needs are. If you do this and stay open during your relationship before there are problems you can have a great understanding marriage. Problems occur when these misunderstandings grow to be relationship killers.