Can you really make him fall in love with you? Can you really find out what he's thinking? Can you actually do anything to make these things happen, or is it just dumb luck? If you've been worrying about these questions, then this article is for you. With a little insight into the male psyche, you can make him fall in love with you any time you choose, whoever he is.

The first thing to come to terms with is the physical side of things, so let's get that out of the way first. Yes, men are sexual creatures, and yes, they're biologically programmed to look at physically attractive women. Pretending otherwise won't make it go away. However, there's a vast difference between lust and love, and when it comes to love, superficial physical attraction isn't even in the game.

That's good news, by the way. You can certainly ensnare a man by playing the red hot vamp, but chances are he won't stick around for too long. Love may take a little longer to achieve, but it's built to last. You just need to be patient and employ a little strategy.

1. TAKE IT EASY...

Rushing into it or trying to force it at a pace that it doesn't want to go is a recipe for disaster. Go slow, let him know you're there, let him know you're ready to commit, and let him know you're ready to wait.

2. BUT NOT THAT EASY

At the same time, very gently and very subtly suggest that you won't wait forever. Relationships are mutual things, and if you're prepared to respect his timetable, he should be prepared to respect yours too. Just a little hint that maybe you won't be there one day will focus his mind wonderfully.

3. FINDING OUT WHAT HE THINKS

And speaking of the mind, like it or not, we're not mind readers. We cannot truly know what's going on in someone else's mind, unless we ask them. So screw your courage to the sticking place and ask the question - how do you feel about this relationship? If you don't get the answer you hoped for, you've either got an opportunity to change something or the opportunity to abandon a lost cause. Good news in either case.

4. IDENTIFY THE HOT SPOTS

Listen to your man, observe his behaviour, and you'll find out where his emotions and interests lie. The aim is to associate yourself with those good emotions, so that the two become inextricably linked in his mind. For instance, if he loves the sea, suggest a walk by the shore. Support, friendship, understanding will go a long way to make him fall in love with you.

Ultimately, treating a man as you would expect to be treated yourself will make him fall in love with you much faster than a cheap play for his attention.