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I recently read "The Geography of Bliss" by Eric Weiner. One of the 'take-aways' for me was how important a feeling of connection is to our happiness.
We feel happiest when we feel like we belong, like we are part of something bigger than ourselves, like we have others to share our joy, our sadness, our peace and contentment with and that we are respected for who we are.
So how do we make those connections if we don't feel like we have them right now? It takes being a little bit (or perhaps more than a little bit) vulnerable. If we are never willing to step out and reveal a little bit of ourselves then how do we let others in?
For many this causes some anxiety, uneasiness, FEAR. There are ways of dealing with fear. A great book by Susan Jeffers is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.
Our relationships are so important, and fundamental to all relationships is our relationship with ourselves. This, I think, is often overlooked. In order to have positive fulfilling relationships with others - we need to believe that we are worthy of that relationship and all that it has to offer.
I saw a poster recently that read "If you treated your friends the way you treat yourself would they still be your friend?" We are so often harder on ourselves than we would ever dream of being on others. Some may see this as self discipline or holding yourself to a high standard but in reality it is more often a lack of self worth, self love, self respect.
In one of my monthly meditations I guide listeners through a visualization with the words:
Love is kind... I will be kind to myself
Love is patient... I will be patient with myself
One of the greatest joys in a relationship is doing little things for the other person, buying small gifts that are meaningful, making them a special meal they enjoy, performing small tasks for them... the list is endless and gives as much to the giver as the recipient. Why not do those thoughtful gestures for yourself.
When we find more inner happiness, we are more joyful to be with, and therefore our outer connections expand.
Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself and be bold, take the first step to creating new connections.
About this Author
Barbara Shanahan is a Women's Spiritual Enrichment Coach, Facilitator and Registered Nurse
From her extensive background working with families dealing with chronic and terminal illness, growing children, aging parents... the many issues women face, comes a passion for working with women to develop a kind, loving, nurturing relationship with themselves.
She is a guide for women, who wish to explore their spiritual life purpose, women who are looking for authenticity and fulfillment in their lives.
Discover more about her coaching services at http://www.PeacefulSpirit.ca
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