There are so many women who are successful in their careers but they keep failing in their relationships with men. They have a lot going for them but they often get dumped. They treat their relationships like a business deal and relate to men in the same way they respond in the boardroom.

If you're this woman, you wonder why you're go after men or be the initiator and it's not working for you.

Women have evolved from domestication to being equals in the workforce but most women throw out their feminine energy and respond with masculine energy when they relate to men. No one is saying you shouldn't be a go getter or you shouldn't be competitive but many of these traits simple don't work when it comes to dating.

Men want to respond their opposite. Heterosexual men don't fall in love with masculine energy. When they see a woman who goes after them like a tiger after it's prey, it shuts them down on a deeper level.

The way to win with men is to respond to them from your softer energy. This does not mean that you dumb yourself down or make men walk over you.

This faulty kind of thinking always get women into a fit. A woman will think, "Well, I'm not going to let him walk all over me. I'm a modern woman and I do whatever I want."

But this sort of thinking is arrogance, not confidence. Men want confident women who are comfortable in their own skin, not a feminist machine who has a chip on her shoulder.

In order to get men to be into you, you have to contain your desire to lead them. You have to learn how to inspire by exuding the traits they find irresistible.

When a woman respond like a man, she does not have charm or wit. Everything becomes a competition. She often compete for a man's attention.

If you find yourself doing this, it must get tiring. You must wonder why you can't seem to get what you want in your relationships.

You may look at women who get walked on and don't want that for yourself. You need to learn how to strike the right balance and a lot of this has to do with centering your female sex appeal so that it hits the spot.