If you want to know how do you win your ex-boyfriend back, here are some things that I know from experience that always work. Of course, they are pretty common sense, but when we are going through a break up with need to be drilled with common sense, since sometimes we lose all common sense during this time.

The other day my girlfriend was crying hysterically. Her boyfriend of 9 years moved out. They had a fight during the day. She didn't feel it was a horrible fight, but when she came back home after she went to the gym, he was gone and moved out. She was beside herself crying and wanting desperately to find him. I really had to do all I could to calm her down.

That night all I could do was listen to her pain, but the next couple of days I told her she would have to have patience if she wanted to win her ex-boyfriend back. I could understand how desperate she felt because I felt he took very drastic and hurtful steps to just disappear from her life. But people act out in all kinds of ways, because they themselves are hurting. So sometimes they take it out on the person they love.

So we talked and I had to tell her that if she wanted to win her ex-boyfriend back she would have to stop looking and trying to call her boyfriend, and to just forget about the relationship for a while. I advised her to do things she likes to do - like take a pilates class which she always said she had wanted to do. Even though she didn't feel like doing anything, she realized that she needed to help herself to feel better about herself.

We talk almost every day, and she is really getting better, even though she still misses him. But she told me that she realizes that she does feel better about herself, and that's really helping her. She doesn't feel so desperate anymore, and she is starting to see some things more clearly, things that she needed to look at in her relationship.

When you're going through a break up it is one of the most difficult things in life. You need to do your best to go through it and come out stronger. It will really help you to feel better about yourself, and that is when the other person will want to come back.

If you want to know how to win your ex-boyfriend back you have to realize that everyone likes a strong person. When someone leaves, there usually is a fifty-fifty chance of them coming back. You can turn the odds in your favor by having patience and not chasing him. If you just play it cool, clear your head, and give it some time, the other person will start wondering what you are thinking and will probably call you soon.