Rules For Living

1. Show up
2. Pay Attention
3.Tell The Truth
4. Don't Be Attached To The Outcome

What does it mean to show up?

Here are a few definitions:

• Being fully committed and passionate about something or someone; willing to do whatever is needed.

• Being present by giving your full attention to an idea, person or situation.

• Being accountable to keeping promises and agreements.

• Being real and authentic.

Think about driving a car. To be safe, you have to be present and alert when you're at the wheel (not daydreaming, please!) You never know how something unexpected might suddenly happen that requires you to be alert with quick reflexes. When you get lost in negative thinking, hung up on problems, or distracted, you become unconscious - like falling asleep at the wheel. Think of showing up as being conscious. In that way, you take charge of what you are deliberately creating.

If you're not present, how can you intentionally create and attract what you really want?

Look at your life today. Are you attracting what you desire? If not, read on... So, how do YOU show up? Can you answer these questions easily?

If you're thinking, "Hmmm I never looked at that before", you're not alone. Do you realize, you are a wealth of information? You know how much I advocate self-reflection! So many of the answers you seek are within you already.

Are you willing to dig deeper?

Write your answers to the following questions to expand your awareness about showing up:

1. What does "showing up" mean to you?
2. What are your beliefs on the subject?
3. How do people show up for you in your life?
4. How do you show up? For yourself? For others?
5. In what ways do you hold back by partially showing up? What are you protecting/hiding?
6. Where do you totally disappear? Situations? People? What does that look like?
7. How do you use "disappearing" against others? (avoidance, blame, control).
8. How does your "disappearing act" affect your life, personally and professionally?
Whatever dreams you want to fulfill or goals you wish to achieve requires your attention (showing up) and energy (execution).

Ready to sit behind the wheel and stay awake?

Your invitation to action over the next 24 hours

Notice how you show up and where you disappear. Write down your observations in a notebook or journal.

Your invitation to action over the next 30 days

1. Write down your answers to the questions about showing up. Take your time to thoughtfully explore your responses to each question. Suspend judgments about yourself and review your answers objectively as you learn more about who you are.

2. Identify one to three actions you will take (in the next 7-14 days) to shift from disappearing to showing up.