Things must be looking pretty bad if you are asking yourself "How do you avoid divorce?" But there is some good news about your situation. You have taken the first step in avoiding a divorce just by recognizing that your marriage is in trouble. Now there are some good books available at your local bookstore that can help give you a step by step guide to walk you through a process to save your marriage. There are even some good e-books available on the Internet that can do the same. But I do have a few free suggestions that can help you get your marriage back on track.

1) Start talking to your spouse. Strong marriages are built on good communication. Both the spouses have to be able to communicate freely with each other in order to know what each other is feeling at any given time. If there is no communication, then you will never be able to know how your spouse is feeling about any current situation in the marriage. Talk with your spouse every night be fore you go to bed. Use your pillow talk to communicate about the day's events and how you feel about them. Before you know it, communicating will come easier.

2) Let your spouse know how you feel about them. We all need to be reminded now and then that we are appreciated for what we do and that we are loved. Your spouse needs to know it too.

3) Put some time aside for each other. Just because we have said "I do" does not mean that the dating has to stop. In fact, those dates are even more important right now than they were in the beginning of the relationship. Get a babysitter, and go out and have some fun. Get the spark back in your relationship, and remind yourselves why you both got married in the first place.

These are just a few tips that I have that can help you avoid a divorce. Show your spouse that you are committed to your relationship and you will save your marriage in the process.