Break ups happen every day, and probably every hour of every day somewhere in this big world we live in. There are as many different ways to win back the ex as there are different people with different personalities. What works for you must be a direct match for your personality and the personality of your relationship with the ex you want to win back.

Now is the time for learning to apply the effective but harmless tactics that have been proven to work for winning your ex back. If you're already thinking about winning back your ex, you are ahead of most relationship partners. Many give up and scurry away into a corner and don't try to win their lover back.

Experience teaches that the simplest approach is to play hard to get. It may feel phony or corny, however, it works. Human beings like challenges and men, in particular, go all out to pursue something they can't get. If you make it appear you are unattainable, your chances of winning your ex back are about to improve.

• First things first. Find a hobby or join a club or group, preferably one that meets every week. For some people, the best choice is volunteering at a hospital or children's shelter. For others it making calls to save the whales or rescue abused puppies. The main thing for you to do is to be too busy to call or text him. And you definitely don't want to answer his calls or text messages. If you want to play hard to get, it helps to be hard to get.
• Bottom line is, don't call him or be available for at least 2 to 3 weeks after the break up. He will go nuts from the freeze out and might just start asking himself, how do I win back my ex?
• Once you've successfully made him desperate for you, the re-connection process can begin. You'll want to prepare for this like a fashion model prepares for the biggest show of the season. This preparation is both physical and most importantly, psychological.

Dress up and primp up to look your very best. Then prepare yourself by knowing that you are powerful and capable and deserve the highest level of respect. Behave as if you are indifferent as you speak during the first meeting. Go slow and make him earn back your love...and trust. This makes him want you even more.