Satirist, Mark Twain, once wrote, "It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so." It is impossible to make your husband love you again, when you don't know how your actions might be part of the problem.

• Hold your tongue. Listen to how you communicate with one another. Put yourself in your partner's shoes and ask yourself how you'd feel if the roles were reversed. What may have been cute when you were dating might be hurtful or inappropriate, at times. If you argue, don't get into the habit of saying things you have to apologize for later. In all your interactions, be respectful and his love for you will begin to grow.

• Size matters. Don't belittle him. Whether you're the breadwinner, or the only thing keeping the family or relationship working resist the urge to throw it in his face. He may silently worry if he's doing enough, if he's keeping you happy and doing a good job providing for you so feed his ego. Let him know how much you appreciate his presence in your life and it will be even easier to make your husband love you again.

• Remember the past. Greek astronomer, Ptolemy, believed the sun revolved around the earth. Don't repeat history. When you're in a loving relationship, it can be easy to forget that you're not the only person involved; the world doesn't revolve around you. It's also a good practice to act as though you're still dating. Remember how scary it was when you weren't sure of his feelings. Remember how great it felt when he said, "I love you." Remember how liberating it was when you found out he liked you better without make-up or that you didn't have to suck in your stomach anymore because he loves your belly. When you remember what made you fall in love, rather than harp on insignificant flaws, your love for him will be radiant and magnetic.

• Paper burns, rips, and can be shredded. Many women believe that the marriage certificate is a pair of shackles, instead of paper. Ever notice how we can treat our family, when we know they are stuck with us? We don't call until we need something, we forget birthdays and important events, we can be flaky, needy, moody and immature and after all that, we still expect family to love us. If you adopt this attitude with your marriage, you will fail at making your husband love you again. Flirt with him, make him feel sexy and masculine, get him to open the pickle jar when you know you can do it yourself. Learn to need him and he will realize how much he needs you!