So your wife has informed you that she wants to take a little time off from the marriage and separate for a while. It does not matter what the reason is, you have the feeling that the marriage is heading towards divorce. Well, you do need to be a little worried, but the good news is that this is a common scenario. Some marriages go through transitional ruff patches where one or both spouses have a need to recharge their batteries. So this may be a good time for you to work on yourself and let your wife do the same. But if this is not a mutually agreed separation, then you are going to need to do some self assessment to see what is wrong and what needs to be improved to keep your wife in the marriage.

The first thing that you will need to ask yourself is "Are you the same man that she fell in love with?" What did she love about you when you were first dating and were engaged? And have you changed over the years to a point that you are not the man you used to be? This is a common problem in marriages, but it has the easiest fix. Simply reapply yourself to become that man you used to be. A good example is if you used to take dancing classes with her, sign the both of you up for a dancing class. This is an excellent way to warm up the romance that used to be in your relationship.

Now if she is still staying away after you have become the same man you used to be, start going out to the club or venues that you used to frequent. It is time to show her that you are not going to just sit around and be sad because she wants to take time off in the relationship. She is going to see you having fun and start to reconsider her decision to separate. A little jealousy is good in a relationship. It always shows us that the grass is not always greener on the other side.