So you and your wife have been spending less time together and you have the feeling that things are not going as well as they should be. And now you are asking yourself "How do I avoid divorce?" Well the truth is that you have already started the process of stopping a divorce. Recognizing that you and your spouse are having problems is the most difficult part of divorce prevention. I have been emailed by many spouses wanting to now why they never saw the signs that their spouse was unhappy. And All I have to say is that you have to have a constant finger on the pulse of your marriage to make sure that your spouse is happy. If you fail to see the sign, it will come back to bite you in the rear when it is too late.

Here are a few other things that you can do to make sure that your spouse is happy so you will know how you can avoid divorce.

• Communicate with your spouse. If there is no communication, then you will not know what your spouse is thinking. Continually check in on your spouse to make sure that they are happy. The best time to do this is while you are both lying down in bed before you go to sleep. It is normally known as pillow talk, and is a good time for the couple to catch up with each other about how they feel about the marriage.

• If you find out that your spouse is unhappy, you need to work with them to see if there is anything that you can do to help them improve their feelings and emotions.

• Make sure that you both find time for each other. Today's environment leaves very little time for a couple to decompress from their hectic day. We spend so much time between soccer practices, dance recitals, and school functions that there is just not enough time in the day for the couple to be alone. Make sure that you make some time for your spouse at least once a week. Take your spouse out for the night. Dinner and a movie is a good start, or maybe go to a club and do a little dancing. Whatever you do, just do it together.

No matter what you do, if you are asking yourself "how do I avoid divorce?" make sure that you are committed to your spouse to get the marriage back on solid footing.