The other day a friend came to my office and asked,

"How can I get the passion back in my marriage?"

I looked at her and asked why she thought I was the best person to ask. She told me she trusted my opinion because I've been through what she is currently going through. She got me there.

Let me tell you some of the key things I mentioned to her.

First of all you need to identify the reasons why you lost the spark in the first place. For example, did the arrival of children draw you part? Was it your careers or your new job? Knowing the root cause of the problem is the first step to rekindling the fire in your relationship.

Once you have that figured out you need to think about all the things that kept you close or kept the fire going. For example, did you go out a lot? Spent a lot of time together? Etc. Remembering all those things might just be the answer to your question, how can I get the passion back in my marriage again.

Lastly you need to assess your investments strategy for your marriage. Most people do not realise that relationships need to be considered as an asset that needs to be well kept. I am sure you have some money kept somewhere and it's earning interest everyday. You need to do the same with your marriage.

Buy some books and read, watch tapes, set apart together and talk. Learn as much as you can about your relationship and your spouse. Do not think it will all just happen - love is good to keep you there but hard work is needed to make it exciting.

So if you ever ask yourself, how I can get the passion back in my marriage, just remember this brief article.