Have things been looking down for you because of a recent break up? Has your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend recently broken up with you? How many nights have you stayed up, just dwelling on the fact that you are no longer in the relationship, and letting the truth settle in that they really did break up with you? If this sounds like you, you aren't alone. Hundreds and thousands of people are feeling the very same way, right now.

There's really not a lot of value in dwelling on the past when you can do something about it. It's time to re-evaluate yourself and your life, and think about ways to get your ex to want you back. There is one thing you must do above all else.

No matter how much your ex hurt you, or put you down, you have to seek to reclaim your self esteem and self confidence. Breaking up, particularly when you didn't want to, can cause you to spiral into depression, anxiety and despair. Don't give into it! It's perfectly natural for you to ask yourself why the relationship failed. You might even blame yourself or something that you did. Doing this can gradually or even quickly pull your esteen and self confidence down in the dumps.

At this point, it's important for you to stop pitying yourself -- or stopping yourself from starting. It's time for you to improve yourself. Get a new gym membership and start excercising more. Or get new clothes and a whole new look. Getting your ex to be interested in you again isn't something that's going to happen quickly, or without working at it. This is a good thing! It gives you time to get yourself back to normal, and get back to someone you feel good about.

Once you feel good about yourself, your self-esteem and self-confidence will follow. When you think about how to get your ex to want you again, it's all about your attitude, and your own desire to win them back. If you prove you have it, they'll see it, and be interested.