If your marriage has turned sour, there is no dearth of marriage saving advice from friends, friends' friends and so on. Which one do you take and why? What are the chances of success if you follow these tips? Here are some time-tested tips to save your marriage:

• When was the last time that you actually listened to your spouse? If you think hard, you have been doing the talking most of the time! To save your marriage, turn into a good listener first. Let your spouse do the talking. If you can make the environment conducive and make the situation comfortable, your spouse would gradually open up. Through this frank and open communication, chances are that a host of unmet needs, unanswered questions and loads of misunderstandings would surface. Even if you are tempted to argue, justify or refute the charges labeled against you - don't. The best marriage saving advice is to learn when to keep your mouth shut.

• If your marriage is showing signs of decay, chances are that both of you need to change your ways, behaviors and attitudes a bit. You may feel that married couples need not profess love for each any more, but you would be surprised at what changes a small compliment, a kind gesture or a considerate touch can do to you spouse and your marriage! Get out of your superior ego state and try to find the concept of 'compromise' one again. Be friends rather than being competitors where each one of you is trying to outperform the other. These things never work to save your marriage.

• People change and so do their priorities. Over time your marriage has also gone through unseen changes. Get back your old selves once again. Show care and concern and put the other person's need on top of yours. Initially all these things might seem silly but you have no idea what it can do to save your marriage. Find some exclusive time for each other where kids and other duties and obligations take a back seat. Make it a point to spend some quality time with each other at least once a day. This way you can reconnect with your spouse once more. While no one would tell you this as a marriage saving advice, but there is nothing as good as rebuilding the love nests to save your marriage.