If you really want to work things out with this person, and you want to do it right this time around there are some things you should know.

If you want your ex to talk to you, it's time to get serious. Leaving a million text messages and voicemail isn't going to make them want to call you back. So you have to give them a reason to call you back.

Here's the thing, most people don't like to fight. So if you do send them desperate messages they're going to do everything they can to ignore you. They don't want any kind of confrontation. The best way to get around that is by saying something that's going to make them want to call you...

"Hey, I'm sorry that things ended up the way they did. I just wanted to check up on your and see how you're doing."

"I wanted to let you know that I understand the reasons behind the breakup. I'm sorry for the way things ended up, and I want to thank you for trying."

It doesn't have to be long, or emotional it just has to be to the point and nice. After your ex reads something like this they're going to know that you're ready to talk, at least about what happened.

When your ex calls don't go begging them to get back together, remember this is a strategy. Just be nice and have an honest talk, the more controlled you are the easier it's going to be for them to talk to you. Your ex has a lot of emotions too, so it's very difficult for them to make those calls.

There is a right way, and a wrong way, to try to get your ex back. You have to figure out what works for you. The sad thing is that if you don't do things right from the beginning it's less likely that things will end up working out between you two. The best thing you can do for yourself is get the best advice possible that's been proven to work for so many others.