Getting an Ex back: what does that have to do with turning into the skid?  When driving on snow or a slippery road surface if the car skids - every instinct you have tells you to brake and turn the other way.  Driving experts tell us the way to recover is to turn into the skid and accelerate slightly.  And so it is with a relationship, our minds say one thing and yet the best thing to do is the opposite - get out of their face, don't call, and take some time to yourself.  Here are three things that can help you in getting your ex back. 

You are in a break up and your mind is screaming, call, text, send a gift, or go there...anything to get back your ex.  You've got to realize that these are some of the worst things you could do for the relationship.  It sends a message of desperation, a message that you are needy.  What your Ex needs is a positive picture of you and you need to avoid doing these kinds of things.  Break off contact as much as possible during this phase and work on yourself a bit.

Do something that you enjoy or something that you have always wanted to do.  The idea is this, you need to put on the face of a winner who enjoys life on your own.  In order to be happy with someone you need to be happy with yourself.  Learn to be who you are complete in yourself this will help you more than you may know in getting your ex back.  Then a relationship will multiply that happiness.

Get with friends and family and connect with them.  Look at their needs and set yours aside.  What can you do for them, and I'm not talking about big things, this means can you take your mom out to dinner.  Can you help your friend move, or help your brother get a date.  Do something for others to get outside of yourself and get you started connecting on a deeper level.  This may seem to have little to do with getting back an ex but it has been shown over and over that reaching outside of your pain will bring on the healing you need in order to have the most opportunity of success in getting an ex back.

These are three things to get you started, get out of desperation, get into a happy place, work on connecting at a deeper level.  This is like turning into the skid and is the best way of getting an ex back.  These three strategies will work wonders for you.  When the time is right and you begin bringing your Ex back into your circle, giving your Ex glimpses of this powerful you, he or she will be ready to run to you.