The usual procedure after a breakup is for you to go running after the one that dumped you with one thought in mind, getting your ex boyfriend back any way you can. You will yell, threaten, promise anything and in the end try to get their sympathy by saying you are sorry. These kind of tactics will not work and never have. Probably more relationships end up on the scrap heap from these kind of actions than any other reason. The reason these actions are so deadly to a relationship is because this is what your ex is expecting you to do and he will be prepared. You will be met with a stone wall of defiance instead of sympathy.

Getting your ex boyfriend back requires a little self discipline and control over your emotions. You must be strong and outsmart your ex boyfriend. This shouldn't be too hard because when women do not let their emotions get the best of them, they are smarter and more devious than men. At this time being devious could be the best trait you have in getting your ex boyfriend back. What you need to do is the exact opposite of what your ex will expect you to do.

Since he expects you to chase him do the opposite and stay away from him. Get out with your friends. Visit your relatives. Do anything but chase and beg him to come back to you. You want him to hear about what a great time you are having and how you seem to have gotten over the breakup just fine. This will cause him some confusion, since you are not reacting to the breakup the way he expected you to. Now his mind will be on you. He will start imagining you with other guys and become desperate to talk to you. When he calls, emails or sends text messages do not answer him. Let him sweat for awhile.

Finally after about a week of letting his messages pile up answer his phone call. Tell him you have been meaning to call him but have been too busy. This is where he will want to tell you how sorry he is to have caused all the trouble. He will want to meet you for a chat. Pretend to be busy with something at the time he wants to meet you. But agree to meet him at a place and time of your choice. This way you keep control of the situation and he is the one coming to you.