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Love. You want it. You need it. You will almost do anything to get it. But you do not even know what love really is. And you definitely do not know how to really love someone. Does this sound familiar to you?
For many years this rang true for me, desperately wanting and needing love. Aimlessly trying to make things work with people whom I knew it never would. Following what I thought was right when really it was all wrong. And no one ever told me what love really was or how to really care for someone else.
The problem was I was focusing so much on what I wanted and not on loving someone else. I wanted someone to sweep me off my feet, to solve my every problem and to meet my every need. I was trying to have a deep connection but I was only willing to meet someone on a superficial level. I did not really want to reveal any true thing about myself. I certainly did not want to take on another person's baggage, another person's emotional problems. I just wanted it all to go along with smiles, laughter and no worries in the world, oh and of course, as long as all my priorities were always on the agenda.
Yeah, right...what daydream are you stuck in right now? How could any relationship have ever worked with that attitude?
Are you stuck in a daydream? It may not be exactly like the one I used to be stuck in. But I bet you may be stuck in something.
It was not until I met my present partner that the pieces of the puzzle finally started to fall into place. That I really began to understand what real love was and could be. Yes I loved my partner but in truth I had to learn how you love someone. I really had no idea how to do that properly or what it really meant.
It was not always easy. It took a lot at times. And for you it may take a lot at times also. It may take some thought, some deep reflection and some work on your part. It will definitely take some commitment. But even though you have to work at love, it is the most wonderful; most fulfilling work you will ever do, both on a personal and a relationship level. So do not be scared to throw yourself into it wholeheartedly.
When you put your whole heart and soul into love you realize that relationships are living things. If you do not water them they die.
Another realization I had was that it is not just about putting energy into others. It is also about putting energy into your self, examining your self. This is part of the fulfilling work you and your partner can do together.
Love is a wonderful journey and it is my wish that you will experience deep happiness and fulfillment in your life, shared with your partner. So let us just recap these into a few easy steps.
1. Change the focus away from selfishness
2. Be prepared to take a good look at yourself
3. Get into reality and out of the fantasy
4. Adjust your attitude
5. Be prepared to work at love if you truly want to get to love
6. Water your relationship in as many ways as possible if you want it to grow
7. See the wonderful, fulfilling relationship at the finish line and never stop working towards it
If you are ready to learn how you love someone properly, yourself included, then please visit my sites below to learn more.
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This article is contributed by Jedha Dening. Relationship expert and personal development enthusiast with a passion for sharing skills, knowledge, advice, encouragement & inspiration to improve your relationships with others and yourself and achieve more happiness and fulfillment in life.
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