Okay. You want to get your ex back. How do you go about it? What are the top 3 proven techniques for accomplishing this? First, start with this vital step: Figure out what went wrong. To get your ex back, you have to understand what went wrong.

Understanding what went wrong is crucial to getting your ex back because you can't fix it if you don't know why it broke. Be objective. Consider your part in the break up. Tell the truth about it as best you can. There are three general grounds for why relationships end:

• You wronged your mate.
• They wronged you.
• Relationship Drift - they're just not that into you anymore.

The second proven technique is to understand that each of the three grounds requires an entirely different strategy to get your ex back. Saying you're sorry when they're just not that into you anymore because of relationship drift is not going to work. Apologizing only works for the first ground, when you have wronged your mate.

If you can start with objectively admitting what went wrong, then you can plan how to get your ex back from there.
The third proven technique is to create your campaign, to know what steps to take to get your ex back. In this short article we can't cover all the various strategies for each of the grounds for why relationships end. However, let's say that you wronged your mate. You cheated on them, you fought with them too much, you didn't pay them enough attention.

How do you get your ex back after you have wronged them? Well there are seven powerful steps that have been proven by others in your situation to work. These steps are so powerful you can sometimes get your ex back in hours or just a few days. If you can do even four or five of these steps, you are much more likely to have you ex open their arms to you again.

The first step that works when you have wronged your mate is to admit to them that you did wrong. You man or woman up and tell them that you did them wrong. "Hey, I cheated on you, and I know that it was wrong..." This is much more powerful than saying "Yeah, I cheated on you, but it was because you were cold to me..."

In the first step, you don't want to argue or defend or justify what you did. That will ruin the whole plan. You just admit to what you did. Your ex needs to know that you understand that you were at fault, and that you can take responsibility for what you did. They can't get to forgiveness unless they know you can own up to your mistakes. This first step sets them up to be able to forgive.

The second step is to mirror their emotions by telling how what you did made them feel. "I know that by cheating on you I hurt you deeply, I made you feel unloved and unappreciated and I broke your trust in me..." This is powerful emotional logic. They will start to realize you really do understand what you did and the damage it caused.

This sets up the third step, which is to then shut up and listen to them. Ask "How do you feel about what I did?" Then just listen. Let them talk. Let them outflow. Let them get things off their chest. Don't argue. Don't defend. Don't justify. Just make them feel heard and understood. If you can follow these three steps before you apologize, you will be much more effective in getting your ex to forgive you and consider taking you back.