Quite often right after breaking up many guys are desperately wondering "How can I get my ex girl back". Usually then they start over thinking and over analyzing everything in their heads, playing it out differently. Then the great big master plan phase starts where they develop some huge elaborate plan to get their ex girl back.

Nine times out of ten this course of action is destined for failure before it even begins for one HUGE reason: You never really know what actually led to the break up. Sometimes women don't even know what led up to the break up. More often than not it is just a big waste of time sitting around and mulling over what actually went wrong.

What Really To Do?

The first thing to get on the right path when answering "How can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to give yourself a rest with the over analyzing of what went wrong and even the relationship in general. The best thing to do during this time is to go out with friends, do some things you have been meaning to do but have not had the time and just stay busy.

Take this time to reevaluate yourself and your priorities. Most of all do not communicate with your ex girlfriend.

This strategy works wonders because it allows you time to get your life in order. There are many changes one makes when dating someone so this is a time where you can get back to yourself. This will also give you a better perspective of what you are looking for in a woman and what you want out of life.

Now comes a crucial point in this process. Do you still want to get your ex girlfriend back? Are you ready to proceed on with life without her? If you decide that you do in fact want your ex girl back then it is a good time to see what page she is on.

If you decide that you do want her back then you are already in a better position then you were right after the break up. You do need to keep in mind that you now can plan it out and use a strategy that will be much more effective than just jumping in with raw emotions.

This is the time to slowly reintroduce yourself into her life. Be cool about it. Give her the option of calling you back or responding to your texts. If she is missing you and is interested in getting back together then you will get that feeling. Make sure she is aware that you are doing just fine on your own.

The most important thing to remember is to develop a good sound plan. If you go about this process with no strategy or understand then you will fail again. I want you to be successful but most of all I want you to figure out what you need to do to be happy. If you decide that you want to "Get my ex girlfriend back" then go for it...the right way.