The role of wedding rings today is to make a clear statement that in your life there is someone whose heart and health you consider in the making of any decisions. Accepting to wear your partner's band is as the prayer books say accepting "an outward and visible sign of an inward and invisible grace."

What is the grace that joins your hearts together? How do you express it? One way, one very simple way is to engrave your wedding bands with the sentiment that moves you.

1. Do you have a favorite song, whose chorus or a single line, has always captured your love?
2. Is there a piece of literature, perhaps even a long passage, whose opening lines will instantly recall your committed passion?
3. What do your wedding vows say? Should one of those promises circle your finger along with your ring?

Engrave your ring. If you've ever looked at old rings, so many of them are engraved with simple statements of love. And then, go ahead and develop a nervous habit. Turn your ring on your finger. In the beginning, every time you touch your ring, remember what is written on the inside. Then after a while, the association becomes automatic. Every time you turn your ring, your head and heart will repeat your vow.

It sometimes helps if you would turn your ring at a certain time of day for a proscribed amount of time. Meditate on your marriage and all the good things that have come of it. Concentrate on the good things you want for it. And more of them will come your way.

That's a great way to keep your marriage vows and marital love alive in your hearts and in your marriage. Your marriage will flourish with the reminders!