Sex is really a complicated matter to handle and it has been a major concern for most of our intuitions since then. Due to the fear we have to the consequences we picture out, it immobilize us to perform something about it.
But then, how should we handle the seemingly difficult issues?
It is very necessary that you clarify this sensitive issue of sex to your teen. Just think of other topics you both usually discuss like potty training, cleaning the kids' rooms and doing drugs. For sure you really don't have a hard time introducing these issues to them.
For sure, you have your hard times as a child regarding these kinds of stuff like how you'd caught accident during a potty training, mess up your room and heard a lot of lectures regarding drug addiction. And now that you're a parent, you have the right advice to say to your teen based from your own experiences and values.
Here are some principles for you to consider before you open up to your teen about sex.
1. It's natural to mess and it can be fixed for sure.
2. You yourself have some accidents and imperfection but still you'd continue in life.
3. Your values reflect what are your aspirations and expectations for your teen.
Through your own experiences, you gain the wisdom to share to your teen how to handle such things. Your own experiences of imperfection, wisdom and utmost desire to protect your teen will surely be your motivating factors to confront them about the issue of sex.
What's the fear factor?
1. That you don't have much knowledge about sex since you have a relationship only with you spouse.
2. That you've only done the act as you build your own family.
3. That if you reveal that you did it out of curiosity, you're teen might try it also.
Action Steps
1. Face the fear no matter whatever the outcome is as a part of learning experience.
2. Retain composure as you tell them your expectations.
3. Clear things up. Let them realize the safest behaviors they should have for them not to be mislead.
LeAnna Benn is co-founder of Teen-Aid, Inc. and National Director since 1981. Teen-Aid is considered one of the best, most comprehensive abstinence programs in the nation. LeAnna has many years experience as a consultant to parents and educators in implementing abstinence education. She has trained hundreds of public school teachers and counselors on how to use the Teen-Aid program. To effectively reach young people with successful living principles please visit My Teen [http://www.helpingmyteen.com].
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