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Do you have a difficult time to establish emotional boundaries with others? Do you struggle to make your feelings known and appreciated by others? If you answered 'yes' to the above questions, your emotional boundaries with others are fractured.
Emotional boundaries presuppose that you could establish and maintain temporary boundaries to give your heart the space it needs to feel safe. People who have been in abusive relationships need to find a safe place to begin to 'thaw out' emotionally. This is necessary not only for their own well being but also for their ability to move past the hurt.
Sometimes in abusive families, the abused kid needs to keep emotional distance until the abusive kid begins to face his or her problems and become trustworthy. You should make sure that you take care not to set yourself up for further hurt and disappointment. Nothing could erode your self-esteem faster than inviting abuse over and over again.
If you are in an abusive situation with your siblings or in your family, it is important for you to wait until it is safe and until real patterns of change have been demonstrated before you go back. Many people are too quick to trust the abuser in the name of forgiveness. Make sure that the other person or kid is worthy of your trust before you trust them again.
If you continue to open yourself up to being emotionally battered, you will appear foolish and the abuser will keep looking for ways to continuously abuse you. You can forgive the other person or kid, but never let your guard down and protect your vulnerable heart until you see sustained change.
So, take heart and be kind to your heart by not allowing abuse to multiply and your self-esteem to plummet further. Only you can take care of your heart. So, handle it with love and care.
About this Author
Irene S. Roth is a freelance writer for teens and tweens. She is in the process of writing a few E-books for teens and tweens on the topic of confidence and self-assertion. She also has an adolescent blog at http://www.adolescentgirlsblog.wordpress.com.
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