Broken relationships happen to other people. Broken hearts happen to other people. Bad things do not happen to you...yet it has. Your emotions are raging in all directions. You cannot seem to get a manageable handle on your life. Nothing you have experienced in your life has ever been as devastating as being told that you are no longer loved or wanted. You didn't see it coming...the realization that "it's over" just hit you...and it hurts. No one could have prepared you for the blow of losing the love of your life.

Breaking up with your partner can lead to a variety of mixed emotions. Most of which are not healthy, and many that lead to periods of grief, anger, confusion, low self-esteem, and maybe even bouts of jealousy.

What exactly is a broken heart?

Wikipedia defines it as follows: a common metaphor used to describe the intense emotional pain one feels after losing a loved one. Just about sums it up, don't you think?

Intense emotional pain is very strong wording to define what it feels like when dealing with a broken relationship.

A broken relationship is just that - broken. Now you must come to terms with your situation and either fix it or cope with it. However, before you can begin the repairs, you must first repair yourself. To do this you must begin to muddle through your current situation.

Coping with what is broke:

1. You need to take time to grieve. The healing process is important.
2. Find a method to facilitate your own desires through creativity. Read, write, or sing to help express repressed feelings.
3. Understand that you may not be at your best right now. Avoid stressful situations; make time for nurturing, self-discovery and healing.
4. Vent your feelings among family and friends. Thrive on their support and well wishes.
5. Use this time to concentrate on yourself - reconnect with who you really are and what you really want.
6. Take time to be happy - do something that is fun.
7. Emphasize the basis for the break up. Reconcile the main causes for your relationships end.

Now it is decision time. Do you want your ex back? Of course you do. You must now implement a plan of attack. Once you have analyzed your mistakes, you are now prepared to go forward and find the necessary guidance. Fix this situation and wrong this right!

Time does help heal the pain of loss and also time is what it takes to repair your broken heart. After a break up it is human to shield yourself from further pain and to build upon your defenses to shut others out. These so called shields are not permanent and again time has the power to transform your negative emotions.