Have you always had someone tell you one thing before you start dating? They would usually say, "always look for a good man". Now you mistakenly follow this advice and think that this is how you find a true love with whom you can be compatible. Some men could be good and others could be bad, aggressive, distant, someone who can't love or maybe even some one who is too afraid to commit to a serious relationship. The truth of the matter is that any man in the wrong relationship will probably behave his worst. So to all the women in this world, my advice is this: do not look for a good man but instead look for a man who is good for you!

Now take a moment and look at your personal traits and qualities. Are you perfect for every man? Have you ever cheated on your man or be cruel to him? Is there a possibility that once in your lifetime you were cold and bossy and disregarded someone who was crazy in love with you but you weren't? Most likely you have in the past done that.

The fact of the matter is that nobody is perfect. People always tell you not to date anyone with a baggage and to me it sounds a bit unreasonable. Everyone has something from their past. It could be bad relationship, family problems. Could be past issues in the school or work. So with all that said, I want to stress out my point and that would be: its not a question if a person has baggage or not, but rather how this person handles his or her baggage!

So once you sit and talk with each other and discuss each others baggage, if you will, then at this point both of you can make decision if a relationship can be build or not. It is good to note also that people do learn from their failures, so in a way, its good to have someone with previous relationship experiences, because now you know that he or she is mature when it comes to making the right decisions during the good and bad times in the relationship, however, you need to remember another thing also, if this person happened to be involved in many past unsuccessful relationships then there is got to be a problem with this individual. At this point I would be careful and not jump into anything serious until you really find out the reasons and if this person changed or not.