Children throw uncontrollable temper tantrums because they are frustrated that their mom, dad or caregiver has ignored or denied their initial request. I'm a mom so I know that it's not realistic that a child will get what they want every time they have a whim but I also believe that compromise is necessary and healthy in any relationship. When our children ask for something that we don't want them to have or ask to do something that we don't want them to do we don't have to give in but we should not simply say no, especially when dealing with young children who may not understand why you're telling them no.
The best thing to do to avoid those embarrassing uncontrollable tantrums is to compromise. Example:
Mom and child are at the playground.
Mom: Honey, it's time to go... You've been playing for a while and I'm sorry but I have to get to the post office before it closes.
Kid: But, I don't want to go. I want to keep playing.
Can you pick out the key words in what the child said? That's right, keep playing.
Mom's response at this point should be something like "I understand that you want to keep playing. If you come with me now we can play together when we get home."
This mom has picked up on a potential tantrum trigger and avoided the dreaded uncontrollable tantrum all together because she listened and paid attention to what her child said. Then, she provided a solution that both parties could live with.
Children are reasonable (even those children with uncontrollable tantrums )and if you reason with them they will prove to you just how mature they can be.
Good Luck!
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