Marriage is a big commitment and once this commitment is made, you and your spouse should be willing to work hard to keep it strong.  In addition, marriage is something that no one should enter into, or be willing to get out of, lightly. Here are some tips that might be of assistance to you if you are in search of ways to save your marriage after you have realized that your union is on the rocks and you are contemplating to yourself, "Can this marriage be saved?" 

First you are going to have to be absolutely real with yourself. Be honest with yourself as you ask some tough questions. Question number one: do you really truly want your marriage saved?  You may or may not realize this, but you could be in the process of subconsciously sabotaging your marriage. How, you may ask? If you are opting to remain in your bad relationship strictly because you think it is the right thing to do, you are mistaken. Perhaps you have financial ties or maybe you have children or your afraid of what the family will think. A good relationship is not possible if one or both people do not seriously want to be in the union.

It is always much simpler for us to see what the things that or spouse has done wrong making it nearly impossible to recognize our own mistakes. So once you've realized that you want to stay married and have committed to doing so, you have to figure out what you did wrong to mess things up between you two. Of course do this only after you have taken the time out to do some sincere soul searching. All of this can be extremely tricky to accomplish so take your time and remember to be truthful with yourself.

Are you guilty of failing to put your foot down when it came to issues that were important to you? Did you fail to stick up for yourself often when your spouse disregarded your feelings or disrespected you? It is possible that these occurrences took place as often as they did because you allowed them. You never corrected them. Instead, you blew up all at once and now your ex is confused because you never called them on their behavior. This would have given him the chance to change for you. It is factual that both of you may have played a role in your breakup. Even if the fault was not 50/50; it may be 70/30, the truth still remains that if you are asking "Can this marriage be saved?" Each person had something to do in the break down in your relationship.

So when is it time to talk to your partner to discover their take on things? After and only after you have truly owned up to your mistakes and taken responsibility for your contribution in the problem will you be able to do this successfully. Are you sure that you are willing to make changes? I don't mean changes for the time being, I am talking about real, permanent changes. Are you ready to do all of this? Then you can now ask your partner to evaluate the same questions you have just answered.

If your partner still blames the failure of your marriage on you and maintains blaming it all on you, then I am sorry to say this, but there is not much hope left for your union.

Your marriage has a chance if your partner says they are wiling to try to change for the sake of the marriage.

There is nothing worse than being locked in a failing marriage, but you don't want to discard a perfectly good marriage before you really attempt to make it work out, all in haste. I hope these ideas help. So if you've asking, "Can this marriage be saved?" the best place to start is by having a nice honest look at yourself.