Many husbands find themselves in a struggling marriage and ask "can my wife love me again". This is a very common feeling and sometimes is not an accurate reflection of a wife's true feelings. But if the perception is there a problem definitely exists.

If this is you and you still love your wife then there is a way to repair my marriage, which is what you want. This is possible, after all, your wife apparently loved you once there is no reason to think she cannot love you again.

What you have to ask yourself is how are you different than when you first met, got married and your marriage was not in need of repair? Were you happy and confident around her, anxiously looking forward to the future?

Over time when life gets complicated and difficult that happiness and confident attitude can slip away just like a wife's attraction to you. How can my wife love me again when I am so different? It is possible, just not as likely.

What we want to do is make is easy for her to love you, not a stretch. When was the last time you woke up and really tried to see the bright side of things and put a smile on your face? Happy, smiling people are automatically easier to love.

Once you are trying to achieve a more positive and appealing aura to present to those around you, sit back and think about how you have treated your wife.

Have you given her the love, attention and appreciation that she expected and is deserving of? Probably not. All women want to feel loved, tended to, respected and appreciated.

If you have been unfaithful to her then that is a serious offense. While you might claim mitigating factors were present, I doubt she sees it that way. Maybe you thought you could have your cake and eat it too.

Your wife is to be your partner in marriage and in life. Treat her with equal respect that you want her to show you. Ask her opinion on important decisions and discuss your concerns with her. Maybe she feels too much like a doormat.

Does she take care of you around the house with chores like cooking, cleaning, and laundry? Please do not tell me you started taking that for granted or treated her like your mother. If so, that has to change right away.

Do everything you can to make her chores easier. Clean up after yourself. Perhaps cook her a meal or learn to do laundry yourself. If you really want to make some points then clean the toilet and scrub the shower. Do not EVER leave your underwear on the floor!

Are you romantically inclined at all with the stereotypical, but always popular flowers, candy and the "I love you"'s? Do you yell at her instead?

In what ways can you change back to the loveable man you were when she said "I do"? If you have a hard time doing any of this, sit back and think about life without her, because losing her is a possibility at this point.