Has your spouse recently told you that he has recently cheated on you, and it has left you asking yourself "Can my marriage survive an affair?" You need not worry because there have been many instances where a marriage has gone through an affair event and came out resulting in a loving and understanding marriage that was better off than before the affair. While your spouse may have been wrong for doing what he did, it is an indicator that there is something wrong in you and your spouse's relationship. The one good thing that will come out of this is that you and your spouse will be able to isolate the deep seeded problem that caused the infidelity and any other issues that could cause cheating later in the marriage.

• Do communicate with your spouse. Your relationship is not going to improve if you keep avoiding each other and the issues that brought the affair about. You both need to get your issues out on the table and deal with them one at a time.

• Be an active listener. Let your spouse talk and tell you why the affair has happened. Being an active listener in the process will allow you to hear the key issues that you both are having. And if you are respectful to him during the conversation, he will be respectful back to you when it is your turn to talk.

• Go out on dates. You may not be sleeping in the same bed for the time being, but that does not mean that you both can not date. Going out on dates will help you both reignite the passion for each other that was once there. Try and get back the feelings that you once had for each other when you both met.

• Do not hold a grudge against your spouse. Sure, the affair is painful for you and he knows that you are in a lot of pain. But forgiving him will allow him to feel a little more comfortable around you and will help him open up to you. You do not need to give him your trust right away. Let him know that he will need to earn your trust over a period of time.

• Appreciate the fact that he has been forthright with you. He could have gone about his business and kept it in the dark. He felt the need to admit that he made a mistake. Now is the time to find out why it happened and not how it happened.