Losing someone in a relationship is difficult for everyone even if you are a type of person who does not or rarely shows your own feelings. Nevertheless, how can the two of you remain friends without one or both of you lashing out from the pain of the loss? It is possible and lovers can still be a friend even long after the passion is gone.

There is the reason or thing that brought the two of you together in the first place. That one thing that attracted the two of you together is still lurking behind the pain and the tears. That one thing keeps the doorway open to the two of you being able to still, be friends. There is an even greater chance that it will especially if the two of you were lovers once.

Once the shock of the loss begins to fade then the pain and the hurt will lessen. Then the healing and the fun, fond memories help to remind the two of you that it was not all bad and there were exceptional moments in the relationship. Often time apart can bring a relationship back together and heal it when the two realize what they had and lost.

When this process is completed then one of you can call the other and suggest that the two of you could meet sometime and just chat. If the other person accepts the invitation then there is a good chance the friendship will survive. If not however, then either allow, the other person more time to heal or if the other person does not even wish to chat then things should remain the way they are.

After all, you do not want to further, add to a person's pain, two people can separate and handle the separation in an adult manner. Without causing additional stress on the both of you, chances are if you do not part as adults then the friendship could also be lost completely.

So if possible keep the drama and the anger in the movies where it belongs, this type situation is real and should be, handled as such. Humans have real feelings and emotions. Sometimes loss takes a person longer to heal from than others so please keep this in mind when trying to keep a friend after the two of you were lovers. Good luck to all the adult friends out there hopefully this will help.