People usually think that the best way to show love is self-sacrifice: Doing things that you normally wouldn't - just because you want to make your partner happy. Doing things that your partner wants you to do. People believe that this shows love.

Big news - that just makes everything boring. Of course, when you are married, you can't just "not do anything" your partner wants you to - that would be a quick way to a divorce. But this doesn't mean that you have to act like a sheep to show your partner that you love him or her; and making him or her love you. Things don't work this way.

Another big news - sometimes, not doing something just because your partner wants it shows that you see yourself as an independent individual and not the property of your spouse. Sure, it won't make your spouse very happy, (since you're not doing their wishes) but it will create and maintain attraction. It's simple - people want what they can't have.

Nobody wants what they already have or could have easily. Everyone is always after what they can't easily get. So, you must be that "what they can't easily get". So, stop doing whatever your partner wants just because you want to please him. This makes you "easy" and boring. Show your partner that you are an independent individual, not something that he or she owns and can make do anything he or she wants! This is an absolutely crucial point in re-igniting the love in a marriage!