Got a boring wife? One of the most difficult aspects of spicing up a relationship might well be persuading a partner who fixed in his or her routine to try something new. Stubborn partners might be hesitant to make a drastic lifestyle change. The key here is to take baby steps rather than dunk your big baby into a big pool all at once. Fear is the primary motivation; your partner might be fearful of new experiences because he or she doesn't want to feel embarrassed.

First assure your wife that you would never pressure them to do anything that feels uncomfortable. Next, limit your new lifestyle change to just one or two drastic things per week so you don't overwhelm him or her with change. Next, encourage his or her feedback on new things to do and help make them into a reality.

Whatever private things are exchanged, romantic or sensual, always use discretion and do not embarrass your partner or tell anyone else about your secrets. A new routine will take some getting used to, but in the end, your partner will appreciate your efforts in keeping things exciting-and of course, always improving a relationship rather than giving up on it.

There are many reasons why relationships don't work out. However, the longer you stay with someone the more you invest in the relationship-your blood, sweat and tears, as it were. When you are with a partner for a number of years, the end of a relationship is not just the end of a fling or the failure to connect. It's a much more somber feeling; something beautiful that was, but that self-destructed because of one too many mistakes. Unfortunately, modern society makes relationships exceptionally difficult.