Attracting your dreams & desires only happens when you are feeling good. Makes sense, right? When you feel good, you attract good things to you. This is the basic premise of the Law of Attraction and how to leverage it in your favor. If you are choosing to think positive thoughts about yourself and the world, you will feel good and as a result attract positive experiences into your life. However, if you are beating up on yourself and feeling bad about your life, you will attract more things that keep you from manifesting your dreams!

Your dreams and aspirations are good things otherwise they wouldn't be your "dreams". Keeping your focus on your dreams and the way you want your life to unfold is far more advantageous to you than focusing on the things you don't like about your life and beating up on yourself because you are not there yet!

Beating up on yourself is a negative vibration. It makes you feel bad, so it's only going to attract more bad things and more things to worry or complain about. This will keep you from manifesting your dreams. Period.

Beating up on yourself serves only 1 purpose.... To make you feel worse than you already do. So, why do you continue to be your worst critic? Maybe you believe that being hard on yourself will push you and make you more successful. (How's that working for you?)

Maybe it is just something that you have always done and it has become a habit. (Is that a reason to do it? Does that mean you can't change something that is dis-empowering to you? Of course not!)

Maybe you have such a high standard for yourself that you continue to judge how well you are doing compared to that "ideal" and as a result, you conclude that you always fall short. (How about just shooting for excellence instead of "perfection"; shooting for "perfection" will always hold you back, not move you forward.) But no matter what the reason for why you beat up on yourself, there is one thing that is for sure - it never feels good to feel bad about something you did or didn't do or something that is in your life that you don't want.

So, I bet you are asking "So, how do I stop beating up on myself?" Well, here is my answer:

1) First, be aware you are doing it. Many times it is so routine for you to do this that you don't even realize that you are beating up on yourself. So, be conscious of it.

2) Decide to turn it around in that moment. Catch yourself in the act. When you start to get down on yourself for something you did or didn't do or something about your life or yourself that you are not happy with, ask yourself the following question: Is this REALLY going to bring me what I want? Your answer will be NO every time and then...

3) Be kinder to yourself. It really is a choice to do this. If you are not kind to you, how are you going to expect others to be kind to you? Treat yourself with respect, love, compassion - like you so gladly do with others. Sometimes it easier for you to give someone else a break than yourself. Your life will unfold beautifully when you start being kinder to the most important person in your life... YOU!

4) If you are beating up on yourself because you didn't get as much done in the day as you wanted to and you are thinking "If I only did..." or "If only I didn't get up so late...", then stop and say to yourself: "It is what it is! I've been here before and life still went on. The sky didn't fall. The next day came and went."

You see, you put so much pressure on yourself! Don't you realize that getting annoyed at the fact that you didn't get these things done is NOT going to help you to complete all the things on your list. Matter of fact, it may make you so discouraged, that you get LESS done. And then what will happen? You will beat up on yourself more. Do you see the vicious cycle you are fueling?

5) Focus on what you are doing well & what IS working in your life. Your attention and focus to the things that aren't working is exactly what's bringing more things to you that you are going to beat up on yourself about.

6) Here's the simplest of all steps... Stop doing it! You are the only one who is making a choice to beat up on yourself. You are in control of what you think and what you feel. That's one of the most empowering things to know.

The Law of Attraction states: "The essence of that which is like unto itself, is drawn." ~ Abraham-Hicks.

Bottom line, beating up on yourself will only keep you from achieving your goals, desires & dreams. The only way to manifest your dreams is to learn how to Feel Good Now from where you are standing. And that's exactly what I help my clients to do. When you make "feeling good" your #1 priority, life becomes so much easier. Your dreams will then be just around the corner waiting for you to live them.